Sometimes, buy it takes a while to get it right.
My own life taught me this. It wasn’t until I was 35 that I started living life authentically – the way that was best for me despite judgments of others.
And lo and behold, try in being true to me, I found someone who is more in tune with me than anyone has ever been.
Speaking of being in tune, musicians Johnny Cash and June Carter Cash experienced this, too. Their 35-year marriage is one of the greatest love stories ever told and both of them were wed prior – Johnny once and June twice.
Sometimes, it takes a while to get it right.
Sarah and Don get this, too. I met them a couple of Fridays ago at the Lobby Bar. They were on their way to a Brewers game and stopped in for a drink.
“The Pfister has always been our favorite hotel and our go-to spot if we’re going out,” says Sarah. “We usually start the evening or end the evening here.”
And then we started to talk in an honest way that only people who are comfortable with their stories can do.
They told me they were together years ago. And then they were apart. And then, after a nine-year separation, they decided to meet again. At the Pfister.
Sarah was sitting in the exact same spot as she was that night, and she and Don looked at each other and they instantly reconnected.
“I swear the earth stopped moving for 30 seconds,” says Sarah.
“Age gives you perspective,” says Don. “It boils down to who you want to spend your life with.”
The couple was married in 2010.
Since then, they have built a mutually-satisfying life together based on work, living in Downtown Milwaukee and accessing the city’s many offerings from sporting events to lakefront festivals, many of which they walk to.
“When you have lived through enough of life’s events, you find out things about yourself, and you realize the more you make yourself happy, the better it is for everyone around you,” says Sarah.
I think of Robert Browning’s words: Grow old along with me / The best is yet to be / The last of life, for which the first was made.
Yes, sometimes, it takes a while to get it right.